Milly, my 13 year-old daughter, is a very serious girl. She always has been. Yes, she is on the autism spectrum, but it doesn’t seem to be much of an issue anymore. Sure, she has an IEP. Yep. She has a social skills class. Of course, she thinks that it’s all a big ol’ waste of time. She experiences the world differently. Why do her peers preen and wear make-up and worry about their hair? Why bother impressing the boys? They are so unimpressive right now anyway according to her. They are nothing like the totally impressive K-Pop boys of EXO and Super Junior who Eadaoin, Milly’s sister, has been more than happy to introduce us to.
Milly prefers to watch Good Mythical Morning , read books, build massive LEGO structures, and watch important documentaries that make her feel “uncomfortable”, as she puts it. She says, “Mom, I know that this is hard to watch, but I feel that it’s important for me know this because I’m a part of the world. And, I need to know about things even if they’re hard to know. How else will I ever be able to help?”
Something crystallized for her this morning when she saw the photos on the cover of the New York Times.
My daughter saw these images this morning as we sat in our local Caribou waiting for school to start and asked, “What…is…this? What is happening?”
I explained. Syria. Civil war. The refugee crisis. She started crying as she looked around. She banged her fist on the table. She then asked, “May I take this to school? I need to show my teachers. They aren’t telling us any of this! We aren’t learning about this! Everyone talks about wanting new this and new that. But this? I bet things would be different if my peers knew about this! I might get in trouble, Mom. Is it okay if I get in trouble for this?”
“Knock yourself out,” I said.
She came home looking defeated. “No one seemed to really care, Mom. Everyone just wants stuff. People are dying. People have died. I can’t live with it. The school wants us to buy gift cards for all the staff. What if we donated all that money to the refugees instead? Wouldn’t that do something?! I’m so angry. I wrote this in class just to get out my feelings, but I have nowhere to put it. I wish I could post it or something.”
“I’ll post it,” I told her.
This is what she wrote:
“SCHOOL: “Shower your staff with gift cards!” NO! Donate to Syrian Refugees. YES!
Kids here want new phones. They want new outfits and hate school. Why wouldn’t parents educate their children about this? They’re teaching their kids to be racist and unkind (there has been racist language used in Milly’s school by other students). There are kids in Syria who are being killed and left for vultures. I think at least half of the kids at my school don’t know anything about this. They say that they hate school. Look at our school. We have iPads! Kids in Syria would do ANYTHING to go to school, to have nice clothes, to be SAFE. We need to do what we can to help. Donate. Do something. Or at the very least learn about it to understand what’s going on and how privileged we are. We need to make a change. Our school wants us to “shower our staff with gift cards”. Why do that when we could help people who need it? Children are struck with terror running for their lives and being publicly humiliated. And our school wants us to donate gift cards to the staff. Our staff already has homes, clothes, food. We should be giving our money not to our staff but to help Syrian refugees who need it.
Donald J. Trump doesn’t want to help them. He says that “they will steal our jobs”. They don’t want to steal our jobs. They just want to be safe and to survive. We should be letting them into our country and we should help. Our country should create more jobs and that would help the economy grow. Kids say that immigrants are bad and that they will take our jobs. They say these things because this is what they were taught. We need to make a change, to be kind, and help other people who are less fortunate than we are.
The 7th grade Social Studies curriculum is ridiculous because there is no current events taught. Instead we learn about the Bill of Rights, the Constitution, and the presidents which are all important, but we could at least talk about what’s going on a little bit. That’s why it’s up to us, the students, to make a change. Before today, I barely knew anything about what’s going on in Syria. No thanks to our school who didn’t teach us anything about what’s happening there. Today I looked at the New York Times and was shocked to find out what is happening. In school we are supposed to learn. It doesn’t have to be a part of our curriculum. If more kids learn about what is happening, the more help Syrians could get. So, do your part.”
Strong opinions from a strong-minded girl, but she’s a girl of action. She asked me to forgo giving her this month’s allowance and donate it instead. She also asked me not to spend any money on gifts for her this holiday season. Instead, she wanted any money I spent on her to go to the Syrian refugees. She didn’t need anything.
All politics aside, she is right. If we have more than we need, then we are blessed. Stop for a moment and think about what you might be able to do. Donate $10? Do it then. Millions of human beings have been displaced. They have lost everything. They are no different from you and me. It is our obligation as human beings first, all other views and opinions second, to come alongside them and help. As Milly said, “Do your part.”
This is how you can:
The White Helmets captured international attention through their bravery, and were reportedly in the running for the Nobel Peace Prize earlier this year. The 2,900 strong group of civilians have been carrying out rescue missions after government airstrikes since 2013, united by their motto of ‘to save one life, is to save all of humanity’.
IRC aid workers are meeting people who have fled Aleppo as they reach the nearby town of Al Dana, one of the many neighboring areas bracing themselves for the influx of displaced people driven from their homes in the city. Donations will go toward providing families who have escaped the city with food, fuel and emergency supplies including mattresses, blankets, soap and towels.
Hand in Hand for Syria was set up soon after the beginning of the war in 2011, and uses its extensive networks on the ground to implement aid in some of the most difficult-to-reach places. Some of the organization’s members living in Eastern Aleppo were forced to abandon their work after pro-government forces took control of the area. Donors can contribute toward the emergency appeal for families fleeing from the city, which will provide food, medical aid and winter supplies.
The ICRC and its local partner, the Syrian Arab Red Crescent (SARC), have remained committed “to act as a neutral and impartial humanitarian intermediary” throughout the Syrian Civil War. Donations to the Red Cross and the Red Crescent have enabled food and medical deliveries to those in need, and the two groups issued a plea on Tuesday to those involved in fighting “to put humanity ahead of military objectives.”
Save the Children has been working to provide children and their families with warm clothes, shelters, protection, clean water and emergency care. In a statement on Tuesday, the charity said “Families who are desperate to leave are being shown no dignity or humanity. We must at least now end this carnage and safely evacuate the remaining civilians.” (courtesy of TIME)
Milly’s originally penned Letter to Everyone…